Since 2018, I have written a blog post to celebrate the birthday of one of the best fictional characters to ever be created: Lorelai Gilmore – and the tradition is certainly not going to stop this year! Lorelai’s birthday is actually tomorrow, April 25th, but I like to share my blog posts on the week days, so hopefully you’ll all forgive me 😉
The last two year’s posts were actually recipes, because we all know how much our girl loooooves food, but today’s post is a bit more philosophical. Instead, today, I am writing about the five things that I think make Lorelai Lorelai.
The things listed in todays post are the main aspects of her personality that always stand out to me the most; not all the coffee-drinking, or relationship mishaps, or what she wears, or even her eating habits – because most of those things are just not feasible for a normal human being, but everything else on this list is.
So, if you find yourself completely adoring Lorelai and wishing you could be more like her whenever you start re-watching Gilmore Girls AGAIN – because I know that I do, every single time – keep on reading, because these few personality traits and quirks of hers actually aren’t difficult to pick up!
Plus, one thing is for sure: of everyone was a little bit more like Lorelai Gilmore, the world would be a whole lot brighter and more colourful 💖
#1: BE EVERYONE’S BEST FRIEND.
Lorelai ALWAYS showed up for people. She was incredibly selfless, and everyone loved her for it. She threw a wake for her neighbour’s dead cat. She let her daughter’s best friend’s band rehearse in her garage for free, even though one of their members would hit on her constantly. She agreed to water a brand new neighbour’s lawn, even though she didn’t want to.
She constantly includes Michel in her life by inviting him to Rory’s birthday parties – which I think he only starts to attend once the show begins, even though he clearly doesn’t want to, as you can see in the background – AND brings him along to the new inn, despite the fact that he doesn’t always deserve her kindness.
She sits through a horrible double date with Rune just so that Sookie can have her date with Jackson. She misses her painting date with Luke, but makes up for it by painting the entire diner for him by herself. She stays with Sherry whilst she’s having Christopher’s baby because Rory wants to be there and doesn’t want to be alone, and Sherry is freaking out.
There’s a million more examples that I’m sure you all know by heart, but the point is that Lorelai makes friends with everyone, and when she makes a friend, she goes all out for those friends. There isn’t anything she wouldn’t do for those she loves, and that shows what a truly wonderful person she is, which is even more amazing considering the fact that she didn’t grow up in a very loving environment at all.
#2: DON’T BE CONCERNED WITH ANYONE ELSE’S OPINION.
As someone who has constantly been described as “weird” their whole life (which is the most vague word ever, so I am not sure how anyone ever expected me to change when they wouldn’t tell me exactly what needed changing), I am constantly caught up in what other people think of me, and I honestly don’t think I will ever grow out of it, but I hope to some day. Especially after seeing wonderfully “weird” Lorelai Gilmore embracing her uniqueness and not caring at all what other people think of her!
People often make smart remarks about Lorelai’s unique taste in both her clothing and decor pieces (which is definitely something we both have in common; I wouldn’t have this blog or my Instagram if it wasn’t for my unique home decor and style), but she’s quick to refute every comment, and I love that about her. There’s one particular scene when she’s talking to her mother about her couch that I really love. Here’s a snippet of the dialogue for those who may have forgotten:
EMILY: Well, this couch is terrible. LORELAI: Okay, good – you think the couch is terrible. Now, at one point in my life, you saying a couch that I carefully picked out and had to pay off over eight months is terrible might’ve hurt my feelings, but not anymore. EMILY: No? LORELAI: No. EMILY: Why not? LORELAI: Because one day, I decided that instead of being hurt and upset by your disapproval, I’m gonna be amused. I’m gonna find it funny. I’m even going to take a little bit of pleasure in it. EMILY: You take pleasure in my disapproval? LORELAI: I encourage it sometimes just for a laugh.
That is GOALS, that kind of thinking. To have so much confidence in yourself and in your own choices, that if someone else doesn’t like them it actually makes you laugh? That is a level of assurance that I definitely have not reached yet, but I hope to someday!
#3: SAY EVERYTHING THAT COMES TO MIND.
Keep in mind that I didn’t say all of these would be good pieces of advice or anything. In fact, this one will most definitely land you in hot water if you live by it 24/7 – just look at the entirety of Gilmore Girls! Lorelai definitely said quite a few things that she should not have said, and did a few things that she probably shouldn’t have done, because she is human like the rest of us.
But she lived life to the fullest, she didn’t hold anything back, and she didn’t have any regrets or what ifs. My biggest fear is looking back on my life and being left with regrets and what ifs, I don’t want that. So I do say what is on my mind, probably a little more than I need to, still less than I want to, but enough to keep life interesting – and that’s good enough for me!
#4: ALWAYS MAKE A JOKE.
This is another one that I think I’ve gotten down pretty well, even if the jokes themselves aren’t that funny (well, *I* think they are, everyone else doesn’t 🙄). I love that Lorelai is always making a joke out of nothing. She takes one word out of a sentence and runs with it, turns it into a joke that no one else gets and sticks with it even if no one else is paying attention to her ramblings.
I think the wonderful “your mother is God?” quip deserves a special mention here, as that is one of my personal favourites, plus her habit of saying “dirty” to any slight innuendo whenever anyone is trying to have a normal conversation. 😂 Ahh, bless her. I 100%
blame thank Lorelai for my own habit of turning everything into a joke and even if no one else finds me funny, I still do, and it makes life much more amusing and each day easier to get through.
#5: KNOW WHEN IT’S TIME TO ASK FOR HELP.
This is something that I personally still need to learn, but we saw Lorelai learn this tough lesson in the very first episode of Gilmore Girls when she sucked up all her pride and asked her parents for help when she needed to put Rory through Chilton, and later on again when she needed help to get a loan when her house had termites, and even later when she opened the Dragonfly Inn and needed Luke to come on as an investor. All of these things were extremely difficult things for her to do as Lorelai had a lot of pride, but at those moments in time, she knew it was the right thing to do.
There were bigger things at stake, so she turned to the people close to her and she asked them for help, which she received. A lot of people think Lorelai is immature, and she can be at times, like ALL of us. She can be stubborn at times, and she loves her furry clocks that purr instead of ring, but it’s in these moments that she proves that she can step up when she needs to. That’s what’s important, that’s what matters, that’s Lorelai Gilmore.
I’ll admit, I’ve put my current Gilmore Girl quarantine watch-through on hold as I’m about to watch the episode where Rory and Jess get into a fight at a party, and as I am 100% #TeamJess, I don’t want to see that as Jess acts awful in that episode and it sucks and I’m not ready to watch it at the moment 😂
However, after writing this post, my heart is so full of love for Lorelai that I want to watch ALL of Gilmore Girls RIGHT NOW, so we’ll see how long that pause lasts for 😅 I really wish I had grown up watching GG like so many people seemed to. I only started watching it in 2016, on a complete whim.
I just randomly clicked on it on Netflix one day knowing absolutely nothing about it as no one I knew had ever seen it, and now it’s one of my most watched shows, and one of my most cried over shows 🙊 It means so much to me, and I’m so glad I decided to watch it.
I love the characters so much, it re-sparked my love of reading – hence why my my largest amount of books read in one year peaked in 2016, when I first watched the show – and it really does make me feel incredibly happy and incredibly sad whenever I watch it.
Anyway, happy birthday to the amazing Lorelai Gilmore! I promise next year I’ll make something coffee or food related, just like she would’ve wanted 😋 🎉
Until next time,